Focusing solely on external achievements can lead to a sense of emptiness and a loss of inner fulfillment.
The distinction between "have to" and "want to" affects a person’s psychological state.
"Success is always formed externally. It follows the chain "action — result — ego reinforcement". "I did it — therefore I exist". However, this kind of satisfaction is short-lived".
According to the expert, a sense of a fulfilling life is not created by external achievements but arises from a person’s internal state. It is connected to the awareness of one’s emotions, desires, and reactions to what is happening.
In cognitive behavioral therapy, the formula "emotion — thought — behavior" is used, where emotions serve as the starting point.
If a person focuses only on external demands, they lose touch with themselves and their own needs.
"Have to" and "want to" is a mistake. Obligations often stem from unrealized desires that, over time, transform into internal beliefs.
For example, the pursuit of success may be linked to a need for recognition, safety, or support. Such inner conflicts create tension and can lead to anxiety and emotional exhaustion.
At the same time, actions based on interest and intrinsic motivation help maintain flexibility and a sense of fulfillment.
At the same time, actions based on interest and intrinsic motivation help maintain flexibility and a sense of fulfillment.
Restoring inner balance requires distinguishing one’s true motives and staying connected to one's emotions.
"Success requires control". One should not fall into the illusion summed up by the slogan "live only as you want".
That is also an extreme. What matters is not to create an internal conflict, but to reconnect with your inner child — vulnerable and capable of feeling. Then the sense of being alive stops being dependent on external victories»
Among the practical recommendations are regularly assessing one’s state, keeping a motivation journal, and consciously planning tasks that bring not only results but also enjoyment, the behavioral therapist concluded.
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